You probably have experienced more than once that feeling, be it after a birthday, a vacation, the beginning of a new year or a random occurrence, when you realize that you want to and/or need to change. The last couple of years have been rather comfortable, I don’t owe money, my micro-home has come together nicely, the firewood is sorted for winter, visited family and friends in Europe twice, became a keen photographer and other good stuff happened, too.
My point is that I’m not in a situation where I evidently need to change because things are bad, as a matter of fact they are pretty cruise-y and admittedly easy, yet there is a strong, self-driven emotion for change. I have so far deliberately written in abstract terms, so you might be asking what it is that he wants to change? What does he want to achieve?
Is it a massive, apple-shaped derrière-augmentation? No, my goal is to become a happier person. For I understand that being happy not only enables me to achieve more, moreover, when things don’t go according to plan, I will fall back on being happy, and that’s just fine.
Attitude, Focus & Perseverance
How do I move forward? A simple approach would be to focus daily on eliminating non-useful habits. You know, the stuff some of us, including myself, do regularly that never help, chew up time and leave a bitter after-taste. If, instead, I focused on useful stuff I shall be successful, right? Right! It is just a matter of attitude, focus and perseverance. I made a list without a specific order of stuff that I do, that I am aware of, that is non-helpful and that I want to change:
- talk less, listen more
- praise more, criticize less
- don’t complain, no gossip, keep small-talk to a minimum
- please/help less
- say ‘No’ much more, without justification
- keep home and living spaces clean/tidy
- get away from social media, internet, apps, games, news & politics
- don’t sweat small stuff, smile more
- eat good food, in moderation and take the time to appreciate it
- celebrate small achievements
- read, read and read
- stretch, meditate and exercise daily
- put more effort into everything that is useful
Seems like a long list. Frankly and tragically, I have attempted before to better myself, getting rid of negative habits, but I am understanding now, that to achieve a happier state of mind and life, I have to address these points all simultaneously. This does not equate to a bigger challenge, on the contrary. For example, the time I save by not being on social media, I can use to read a book, instead of reading the news before getting out of bed and feeling pissed off, I can do push-ups.
I took this photo yesterday. The pig and chicken are doing their own thing at the moment. I’m not getting any eggs and have to sort out a plan on how to catch the pig…